Sinking into it…

I’ve spent a lot of time talking with women about their bodies. How they move them. What they can do with them. How they want to feel inside them. How connected they feel to their own bodies. The last one generally leaves women stumped. They don’t feel, nor do they want to feel, connected to…

The (Wo)Man in the Arena

I recently watched Brene Brown’s Netflix special – Call to Courage. Twice. Once on my own, with a few tears and goosebumps and a second time with three of my treasured girl-friends. I’m not sure what category her show fits in to – comedy, drama, self-help, documentary? However, it is essential viewing for anyone on…

Soul Spark

When I listen to TED talks, I let the app randomly select ones for me. I’ve stumbled across incredibly inspiring and informative talks this way, many that I’d probably never have selected for myself. Today I listened to Elizabeth Lesser‘s ‘Say your truths and seek them in others’. Halfway through, I realised that I’d heard…

Reframing

When I was 41, I was ready to leave a job that felt like it was crushing my soul. I’d just returned from living and working in the Philippines with my family for two years and was finding it hard to adjust to coming home. I’d struggled with depression at times in my life, but…

Not Brave

Bravery is the state of showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty. It brings to mind images of firefighters, cancer survivors, our armed forces, those who have stood against tyranny or abuse. Heroes. Legends. Warriors. What it does not bring to mind, is a picture of me, or anyone else, in…

Down the rabbit hole…

In one week, I’ll be forty-six years old. Young by many standards, old by others. I guess it’s middle-aged – if I live to be over ninety. I’m generally blasé about getting older as I acknowledge it is a privilege denied to many. I appreciate the wisdom that comes with each new spin around the…

Rewriting Your Story

The New Year lends itself to a ‘reset’ in many people’s lives. New year resolutions, reboots, challenges, audits, bucket lists, intention setting. It is a time to evaluate the past year and determine whether you want to implement a few changes for the coming year.  Tomorrow night I’m attending a ceremony to mark this transition…

Shame

Some of my best pondering is done while hanging out the washing. I don’t know why, but there is something in the repetitive action of pegging clothes that gets me introspective and frequently triggers motivation for writing something. Today, as I hung out some of the never-ending laundry pile, I was thinking about body image…

The Midlife Unravelling

There is no coincidence that so many people reach a point of acceptance about many aspects of their life when they hit ‘middle aged’. I just paused to Google what constitutes ‘middle aged’ as I do still struggle a little to use that term for myself. Oxford English Dictionary describes it as being between 45…

Cossie Confidence

A few years ago, posting a picture like this would not have been possible. In fact, no pictures like this exist of me from a few years ago. They were instantly deleted before anyone could see them. The idea of sharing a photo of me in swimwear, showing all the perceived flaws of my body…